When Strong Men Start to Disappear

I know this might not be what you expected in your inbox.
But I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about what actually matters…
and I’d rather be useful than popular.

We can talk about strategy, business, and buying cars any day.
Today, I want to talk about something that’s eating people alive behind the scenes … especially men like me.
Men like us.

Here it is … You ready?

When you’re no longer the protector … when you don’t serve a purpose…
You can feel disposable.

And when you feel disposable, you stop talking.
And when you stop talking, you start disappearing.
Not all at once.
Just enough to not make a ripple.

• I’ve lived in that silence.

• I’ve watched people I love vanish into it.

• I lost my own mother to suicide.

• I’ve spent years trying to understand that darkness … both hers and mine.

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I’m not a therapist.
But I am a survivor.
And I’ve studied this subject more than most professionals I’ve hired.

This is what I’ve learned…
Suicide doesn’t always come from sadness.
Sometimes it comes from sheer disconnection.

• From believing you no longer matter.

• From being surrounded by people, but no longer seen.

• From being needed only when you’re strong, useful, or helping someone else climb.

If that’s resonating, even a little…
This isn’t just about you.
This is about all of us.

• This is about every man who’s lost his identity in roles he outgrew.

• The father whose kids only call when they need something.

• The husband who’s become background noise.

• The business owner who’s surrounded by people and still feels alone.

• The friend who always picks up the phone but doesn’t get called first.

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We don’t talk about this stuff because we’ve been conditioned not to.

• “Tough it out.”

• “Don’t burden others.”

• “Get over yourself.” (my ex-wife’s favorite line)

But let me say this plainly:
You’re allowed to matter. Even when you’re not holding the whole world together.

• You’re allowed to ask for help.

• You’re allowed to slow down.

• You’re allowed to take up space without earning it first.

• You’re allowed to stop being everyone’s emergency contact … and finally be your own.

So if this hits a nerve … good.
Not because I want anyone hurting…
But because I want the right people to feel seen.

If you’ve ever looked around and thought,
“I don’t know where I belong anymore”

• You’re not broken.

• You’re not weak.

• You’re just human.

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And maybe you’re overdue for your own return.

Because the strongest men I know?
They don’t die with secrets in their chest.
They live with their truth in the open.

And if you’ve got breath in your lungs,
You’ve still got time to change the ending.

That’s all for now.
See You Next Tuesday.

Stay lit.
– Bob

 About Bob Manor

Bob Manor is the founder of South Ontario Auto Remarketing, Can-Am Dealer Services, and is Co-Founder of Auto Auction Review. Bob is also  the creator of the Freedom Formula. With over 30 years of experience in the car dealership world, Bob specializes in wholesale, dealer services, and personal branding. His mission is to help dealership professionals take control of their careers, build resilient personal brands, and achieve lasting freedom in business and life.